One tough decision. Two positive outcomes.

Written by on December 15th, 2016 – 2 Comments

brenda-sI was diagnosed with RRMS 3 years ago at the age of 31. I had been experiencing numbness on the left side of my body for months and MRIs showed lesions everywhere. I remember feeling relieved for a brief moment because it wasn’t a brain tumor. My relief quickly faded after I asked the Neurologist if I should continue to try to have a baby. (My husband and I had been trying to conceive with no luck for several months). What he told me broke my heart. He believed it was important to start treatment right away but the medication was not safe for pregnant women. Also, many women experience a relapse postpartum and a relapse could affect my ability to look after my baby. I had a tough decision to make.

I decided to put the medications on hold and keep trying. I felt like a sitting duck as I had no idea if I would relapse in the meantime. I felt crazy for going against the advice of a Neurologist and pressured to get pregnant as soon as possible. All that stress made getting pregnant more and more difficult.

A year later I took a test on a whim and it was positive! A week later the ultrasound showed not one, but TWO babies! The pregnancy put me into remission and I felt amazing. However, it wasn’t all smooth sailing in the months that followed but that’s another story I’ll save for next time.

2 Responses

  1. Jessica Winger says:

    Congratulations Brenda on your twins pregnancy, that is very exciting. Thank you for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with MS in November of 2015, I’m 26 now and have always wanted to have kids. I’ve been feeling a lot of anxiety and worry over this of whether to try in the next year or two while my symptoms aren’t severe now I worry about time. I struggle with two thoughts, I could try and have a baby now, while my symptoms are mild and I’m in young but maybe not the most prepared, or wait till I’m more stable but risk having my MS progress and have more severe symptoms as a new mother. I’m just nervous and anxious, and can identify with the stress in your story.

  2. Brenda Scully says:

    Thank you and sorry for the late respone….you know, TWINS! I blame all of my laziness on them!
    I thought I could plan my life like you are describing but having twins has taught me that you can’t control everything and it’s much easier to just go with the flow. I’m stuck in the same predicament now and wondering if I should or could have another baby (or babies! God help me! Lol!). My husband and I have decided to leave it up to fate. It took us over a year to get pregnant with the twins so I know it’s not going to happen any time soon. We’re currently no where near prepared to have another but we weren’t prepared to have twins either and we did it…we just went with it and discovered that babies don’t need much. I remember stressing over not having a change table. Turns out we changed them wherever…on the floor, in the bathroom, in their cribs, and on our bed! If we had a change table it probably would have been used as another place to stash diapers and clothes.
    So that’s my advice but I’m not you and you’re not me. You have to do what right for you but just know that I was an older mother with some severe symptoms and was still able to manage just fine. I have two healthy two year olds to prove it and I am currently feeling great, healthy and happy the first two years are over but wouldn’t change any if it if I could.