By: Andrea, guest blogger
the informal exchange of ideas by spoken words
Talk, discuss, rant, laugh, question, reflect, release, connect, bond, support. Imagine living for a year or a two without speaking to another human being. Imagine finding out the best news ever, and having no one to share that with. Now imagine finding out you have a life-changing condition, and never having the opportunity to share your thoughts, your fears, your hopes, your questions with a person who shares the same. Loneliness and isolation, waiting to be consoled by simple conversation. Talk, discuss, rant, laugh, question, reflect, release, connect, bond, support.
During a conversation one night with a good friend, it suddenly dawned on me that I have never had a conversation with someone who has MS. How bizarre, really. I mean, I have endless conversations with neurologists and MS nurses, but never a conversation with a fellow MSer. Well, once I did have a brief conversation with an older woman with MS who lives in my community. However, that conversation was merely to discover “no, there are no MS support groups in our community at this time.” How is it possible that I, myself, have never noticed that I have not had a moment to talk with and listen to someone fighting the same kind of battle as I am? Not yet had a moment of connection?
I have so many questions and thoughts at this exact moment that are brewing inside of me. Some lean towards fear, some are just plain wonder. I couldn’t imagine having the opportunity to talk with someone who perhaps shares the same thoughts, or not. Someone whose words have a little more authentic validity than the words of support I hear from the non-MSers who create my wonderful support network. For the record, all of who have a direct impact on the amazing and positive path I am taking with my MS, and none of whom I would ever give up. I hope you know who you are…
So, my question is, who do you talk to? And who wants to talk?