we are expanding our home … by 2 feet

Written by on October 24th, 2013 – 5 Comments


Yep we have only been living here a year, but time for an expansion … “by 2 feet” 🙂 Yep that’s right, come January 2014 my husband and I will be expecting our 1st little baby to arrive! 🙂

If you think people have opinions about MS or ANY other illness/treatment you use, wait until you are planning on having a baby or are pregnant, then the questions REALLY come.


a)     Are you sure you can get pregnant?

b)     Are you sure you’re going to be able to look after a baby?

c)      What if you’re tired all the time?

d)     What if your MS flares up and you end up in a wheelchair with a baby?

e)     What if both you and baby get sick and your husband is left to take care of you?

f)       What if your MS doesn’t go into remission when you’re pregnant and you have a flare up?

g)     Will you go off drugs before you get pregnant?

h)     What if you get sick off your medication?

i)       How will you live with yourself if you don’t get back to “normal” post baby?

You can see the pattern it goes in, all valid questions, but good thing there aren’t 50 letters in the alphabet or I was in for A LOT of questions!

I will summarize all these questions with ONE answer … “I don’t know, now be happy for me”. 

Do people in life ever have all the answers? Healthy or not, do we KNOW when we are going to get hit by a bus? I guess if we are watching the bus hit us, then yes.  More often than not, no – we don’t know what the future has in store for ANY of us; we take it as it comes.

Could I sit here and stress about my MS, my baby, genetics, drugs, relapse, of course I could … I choose not to!

Why is it that people feel it’s OK to warn me of what can happen, I’m well aware of what can happen … I know how to read! I’m well aware this could change everything, but the bottom line is … it’s OUR DECISION! Everyone makes his or her own life decisions – this is ours …

If I can avoid slapping someone in the face when I hear these comments (especially with my hormones right now) why can’t they avoid saying these comments? 🙂

The last thing my neurologist told me; “you are healthy and have recovered from your latest attack as much as you’re going to for now. The feeling in your face/neck/back might never return … it might take 1,3, or 5 years … but for now, you’re healthy – you have my approval and recommendation to make a baby!”

5 Responses

  1. danben says:

    Congrats Spicy on the wonderful news! Have you and hubby come up with any names yet? It’ s human nature to be curious and wanting answers to know how things will unfold but like you said we all don’t know what the future has in store, we take it as it comes. Love and courage will ultimately carry the days ahead and it will be the happiest future. Life presents challenges, it’s how we fight thru them that defines us and I can immediately say without a doubt you will be the best MOM.

  2. Lelainia says:

    Congratulations Spicy, that is great news! Just so you know, Jason DaSilva (When I Walk) and his wife just became parents in February and Jason lives with PPMS. Jason lives with a high level of disability, but he is adapting to life with a wee one. I think it is a courageous move to invest and have hope in your future.

    Also, I have a friend with RRMS who just had a baby in June. She brought the little guy to our support meeting last week so we could meet him and both baby and mum are doing just fine. She looked radiant and relaxed. EVERY parent faces challenges, healthy or not. Being a parent is all about learning and adapting, so don’t let anyone tell you you can’t do this.

    Enjoy the journey and I wish you optimal health and happiness. Can’t wait for baby pics!

  3. Lioncoeur says:

    Congrats! So exciting that you’re going to be starting such a new chapter in your journey! 🙂

  4. Footsteps says:

    Congrats Spicy!!! So excited for you and your husband! Good for you to have the courage to go about getting what you want in life with such a great attitude! I can only imagine the questions you have to answer, as I know how many I answer even though I’m not even in a position to be thinking of a baby right now! Keep your head up and keep the great attitude!

  5. kirstimarie says:

    Spicy – first of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! I’m so happy and excited for you.

    No matter how scary the answers to those questions *could* be, you deserve every happiness that any able-bodies person can partake in. Whatever happens, you will get through it.

    PS. I have heard that most women do very well during pregnancy, I hope you enjoy it 🙂