Yep we have only been living here a year, but time for an expansion … “by 2 feet” 🙂 Yep that’s right, come January 2014 my husband and I will be expecting our 1st little baby to arrive! 🙂
If you think people have opinions about MS or ANY other illness/treatment you use, wait until you are planning on having a baby or are pregnant, then the questions REALLY come.
a) Are you sure you can get pregnant?
b) Are you sure you’re going to be able to look after a baby?
c) What if you’re tired all the time?
d) What if your MS flares up and you end up in a wheelchair with a baby?
e) What if both you and baby get sick and your husband is left to take care of you?
f) What if your MS doesn’t go into remission when you’re pregnant and you have a flare up?
g) Will you go off drugs before you get pregnant?
h) What if you get sick off your medication?
i) How will you live with yourself if you don’t get back to “normal” post baby?
You can see the pattern it goes in, all valid questions, but good thing there aren’t 50 letters in the alphabet or I was in for A LOT of questions!
I will summarize all these questions with ONE answer … “I don’t know, now be happy for me”.
Do people in life ever have all the answers? Healthy or not, do we KNOW when we are going to get hit by a bus? I guess if we are watching the bus hit us, then yes. More often than not, no – we don’t know what the future has in store for ANY of us; we take it as it comes.
Could I sit here and stress about my MS, my baby, genetics, drugs, relapse, of course I could … I choose not to!
Why is it that people feel it’s OK to warn me of what can happen, I’m well aware of what can happen … I know how to read! I’m well aware this could change everything, but the bottom line is … it’s OUR DECISION! Everyone makes his or her own life decisions – this is ours …
If I can avoid slapping someone in the face when I hear these comments (especially with my hormones right now) why can’t they avoid saying these comments? 🙂
The last thing my neurologist told me; “you are healthy and have recovered from your latest attack as much as you’re going to for now. The feeling in your face/neck/back might never return … it might take 1,3, or 5 years … but for now, you’re healthy – you have my approval and recommendation to make a baby!”