Love, Life, and MS

Written by on April 30th, 2013 – 4 Comments

Love, life, AND MS? This past year has taught me that they can in fact coexist. I’m Maria, I’m 20 years old, and I have MS. I was diagnosed at the age of fifteen, and hadn’t quite recovered from the shock until recently. When they told me, you have MS, I honestly thought my life was over. I had nothing left to stand on. I had spent the past fifteen years power planning my life down to the last detail. Being told I had MS made me feel blind and lost. No one would ever love me, I was no longer ‘flawless’, and I had no future. I quickly learned otherwise.

When I was seventeen I got an internship for IBM, and by the following summer another one through Intel. I went onto to study Construction Engineering at Oregon State University, and the sense of pride within me that I had lost with the diagnosis was slowly but surely regained. As for ‘love’, growing up I didn’t have a solid idea of what love was. My parents were either fighting or walking on glass, and TV shows were scripted, aka, the Bachelor (sorry ladies but seriously, it’s totally scripted). I dated in high school and college but never really connected with anyone. I started to think it was embedded in me, and that since I never saw what a true functional relationship looked like, I had nothing to go off of. The summer before my sophomore year, however, I started talking to this guy.

He was older than me, four years older to be exact, but he was so much fun to hang out with. I found out he had just gotten back from Afghanistan a year ago and was also attending OSU. We became good friends and started dating a few months after. I love him, and I know that this is what love is. Like the song goes, ‘you’re a part time lover and a full time friend’, and that’s what Aaron is to me. He knows about my MS, he knows that I have trouble with calculus, and he knows I don’t like my carrots boiled, and he still loves me! Let’s recap: I’m a 20 year old engineering student, with an upcoming internship in design and development (sounds nerdy, but it’s way cool, trust me), I am in love with my best friend, and I have MS. There, life, love and MS, they can coexist.

4 Responses

  1. Paula says:

    Thanks for sharing! I feel the same way!

  2. Kate says:

    Hey,
    Wow, I love this post.. I have a new friend who I met at the MS clinic in Vancouver, Canada. And she posted this on Facebook.
    Oh I love it. I was just diagnosed this year with MS, at 20. And wow, has this rocked my ship back and forth. I broke up with my frist boyfriend of 3 years and christmas, found out hes moved on yesterday.. but its good. I know there is something else out there.. but man, I love reading your post and having someone else out there who feels the way I do.. I know its hard for people to wrap their heads around MS, and for a long term relationship it can be even harder.
    I also can relate to the diagnosis and thinking how my life was over, I “knew” that in 5 years I was going to be in a wheel chair, because that was all i knew. People who died of MS and were in a wheel chair, I do now know that its not (usually) what happens now. But I love to hear your story, thanks for sharing.

  3. Great post! thanks for sharing 🙂

  4. Patricia says:

    You are a breath of fresh air Maria… good for you for living and loving…. your MS is just along for the ride…..

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